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Posted: Fri Oct 16, 2015 9:07 pm
by GORDON
Alhazad wrote:It's like looking into my roommate's future.
Context needed.
Posted: Fri Oct 16, 2015 9:49 pm
by Malcolm
GORDON wrote:Alhazad wrote:It's like looking into my roommate's future.
Context needed.
His roommate has a daughter that needs to be married off to you so you're forced to care for him.
Posted: Fri Oct 16, 2015 10:03 pm
by GORDON
Just to add a little seasoning to this big pile of shit, her son, who lived with her from the ages of 40 to 50 until she moved into my house, and did nothing to help her out, sniffed around asking for money yesterday. He has neither called her, nor answered our calls, since she moved in with me. He is going to be a problem.
Posted: Fri Oct 16, 2015 10:40 pm
by TPRJones
Get bunk beds up in that attic space. Let them make each other miserable.
Posted: Fri Oct 16, 2015 11:02 pm
by GORDON
The guy makes about $35k/year. We sold him her house at half the market value, and that was supposed to be his inheritance from her. His mortgage is about $400/month. He has no wife, no kids, no real debt. We want to know what the fuck he does with all his money that he has to ask for $800 to cover his expenses for the month.
He also now has a 3 bedroom house with each room FULL of scifi collectibles, a lifetime of collecting.
This shit aint going to fly.
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Posted: Sun Oct 18, 2015 5:38 pm
by Malcolm
We want to know what the fuck he does with all his money that he has to ask for $800 to cover his expenses for the month.
He also now has a 3 bedroom house with each room FULL of scifi collectibles, a lifetime of collecting.
Doesn't that sort of answer the question? If I didn't drink and didn't go to any concerts, I'd have my student loans damn near paid off by now.
Posted: Sun Oct 18, 2015 6:01 pm
by GORDON
I just don't see how he can be spending a thousand a month on that stuff, though. He doesn't have a blu ray player so it isn't like he is buying movies. I don't even think he pays for fast internet for Netflix. He's an XBox 360 on a 32 inch TV man.
Anyway, this morning the MIL got caught sneaking cookies again... time to change the hiding place... and she got all pissy and said, "It's my body and I should be allowed to kill myself with sugar if I want to."
So again she was reminded that 6 months ago she was doing just that, and then begged for my help. She always seems to forget that for some reason.
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Posted: Sun Oct 18, 2015 7:36 pm
by Malcolm
Dude, there are all kinds of ways to spend. Check his Amazon and eBay history.
Posted: Mon Oct 19, 2015 12:05 am
by Alhazad
Regarding your MIL, have you considered abandoning any premise that she's an adult and just treating her like you would a bad child?
"Get your chores done and I'll let you use my computer to play mahjongg until bedtime."
"You can refuse dinner but if you eat up all your cereal now we won't buy you any more until the next grocery trip."
It doesn't really matter if she's past rationality when you have all the keys.
Posted: Mon Oct 19, 2015 8:53 am
by GORDON
Yeah, I've known we are there for a while, now. I am just hitting that balance of treating her like a child while giving her the illusion of free will.
Last Friday at her doctor, she pulled me aside and told me to keep doing what I am doing, because her lab numbers haven't been this good since 2011.
But her brain is never going to get better, so I am mentally preparing for her to get worse over time.
I also stopped buying her ice cream. She eats a half gallon in two days and we aren't doing that any more.
Posted: Tue Oct 20, 2015 6:46 pm
by GORDON
A while back, before I had her on a healthy sleeping schedule, I had to wake her up at 11:30 to eat the lunch I'd prepared.
Me: Get up and out of bed, I made hot dogs for lunch.
MIL: But it's breakfast time.
Me: No, it's lunch time, and I have hot dogs ready. Now get up.
MIL: No, I need cereal for breakfast, I can't eat hot dogs for breakfast.
Me: *collecting my patience* But... it isn't.... breakfast. It's time for lunch.
MIL: No I just got up so it's breakfast
Me: *dies a little inside*
*time passes* And just tonight....
Me: I'm making tacos for dinner, so figure out what you want me to make you. Figure it out quick because we're eating in less than an hour.
MIL: OK. *starts getting ready to leave*
Me: Where are you going?
MIL: I m going to walk to the little carry out.
Me: Why?
MIL: Because I don't know what we have to eat.
Me: .... that makes no sense... have you looked in the fridge?
MIL: Well I know there's no hamburger defrosted.
Me: Yeah? So? There's not a butcher shop at the little carry out, either. We have hot dogs, you have your lunch meat for a sandwich, I'll make you a salad, there's soup, I'll make whatever you want.
MIL: *starts storming off* I'LL JUST HAVE CEREAL THEN.
So sometimes meal paradigms are sacred... she can't have lunch food when she gets out of bed at noon.... but when she is wanting to be difficult, having cereal for dinner is fine.
Me: *dies a little more inside*
I am taking a break from her tonight. She can eat cereal if that's what she wants.
Posted: Tue Oct 20, 2015 7:26 pm
by TPRJones
But cereal is an anytime food.
Posted: Tue Oct 20, 2015 7:48 pm
by GORDON
I just googled I NEED A BREAK FROM MY OLD CRAZY RELATIVE WHO LIVES WITH ME and I got this page, with hundreds of people having their lives ruined by old people who sound exactly like my MIL.
http://www.boomers-with-elderly-parents.com/elder-c....ch.html
Posted: Tue Oct 20, 2015 8:59 pm
by Malcolm
Have you considered lying? "You didn't just get up, you've been up for three hours and you already had cereal."
Posted: Tue Oct 20, 2015 9:58 pm
by GORDON
I told the wife tonight that I can do this, but I think I need a 1-week break every six months, for my own mental health, where she is out of this house and I don't have to think about her.
I don't think I am going to get this wish.
Posted: Tue Oct 20, 2015 10:01 pm
by Malcolm
Not an ice sculpture's chance in hell.
Posted: Tue Oct 20, 2015 10:03 pm
by GORDON
Yeah, she only has 6 brothers and sisters who are still up and around and healthy.
And none of them are on facebook to read my stories.
Posted: Tue Oct 20, 2015 10:23 pm
by GORDON
Goddam, there are a lot of people in the comments of that article praying for death because they are sick of taking care of their parents.
Posted: Tue Oct 20, 2015 10:29 pm
by TPRJones
That's part of the problem with the modern nuclear family. Up until this last century people lived near all their relatives and there were plenty of folks right next door who had to help take care of the annoying elderly, as well as assisting with child care and whatnot.
The nuclear family just isn't stable enough. I fully expect group marriage to replace it over the next century. More adults working together = more stability for this sort of thing.
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Posted: Wed Oct 21, 2015 12:13 am
by Alhazad
Malcolm wrote:Have you considered lying? "You didn't just get up, you've been up for three hours and you already had cereal."
You suggest this as if contradicting GORDO weren't her resting state.